How to Talk to Girls on Video Chat Without Making It Weird

The women who stay on a call are the ones who feel comfortable. Comfort comes from being treated like a person, not like a prize or a puzzle. So the goal of the first minute is not to impress. It is to be pleasant, a bit curious and not in a hurry.

That also takes the pressure off. If the chat does not click, nothing is lost. Tap Next, and the next match starts fresh. What to expect from live matching, including who actually turns up, is covered in our notes on video chat with girls.

• Light on your face. Sit facing a window. A lamp behind you turns you into a silhouette.
• Camera at eye level. Stack the phone on a book if you have to.
• A tidy, neutral background. Skip anything that gives away your address or is likely to distract.
• Headphones. They stop echo and make you easier to hear.

Fixing these takes two minutes and does more for your first impression than any line. There is a longer list in how to have better video calls.

Good openers are small, friendly and easy to answer. A few to borrow.

• "Hey, where are you tuning in from?"
• "Hi! What time is it where you are?"
• "Hello, is your evening going okay, or is it one of those days?"
• "Hey, I am new here. How is it going so far?"
• "Hi, can you hear me alright?"

Notice what they have in common: they ask about her situation, not her appearance. A comment on looks as an opener usually shuts the conversation down.

If you freeze, topics are easy to borrow: food, a song, a place you want to visit. The list under talk to strangers has more.

• Starting with a request instead of a greeting.
• Commenting on her body, face or clothes.
• Asking for her social media or number straight away.
• Pushing to move to another app.
• Ignoring a no, or arguing with it.

Each of these can also get you reported. The community guidelines are short and worth a read.

Say so. "I need to go, it was nice talking to you" takes four seconds and leaves a good impression. If she says she has to go, let her go with a smile. People remember how a conversation ended, and a friendly ending is occasionally followed by a second chat on another day.

If you want a calmer format for conversations like this, 1 on 1 video chat keeps every call between two people.

You will get skipped. It happens to everybody and it is usually about timing, mood or a bad connection. Do not take it personally and do not chase. Keep your own surname, address and workplace to yourself, never send money, and stay out of any link you are sent. The safety tips cover the rest.